Grooms: It’s Your Wedding Too!
December 20th, 2005 Posted in Wedding Planning and Ideas
Between the bride, the mother-of-the-bride, the bridesmaids and all the other interested amateur wedding planners, the groom can often end up feeling like an accessory at his very own wedding. While getting into the gritty details of flower arrangement might not be your style, The Knot suggests four areas that grooms can get involved.
Think of Super Bowl Sunday with the guys…what makes that party a party? The exact same thing that will make your wedding reception a smash hit with guests: food, beverages, music, and a conversation starter. These are great areas to get your two cents in and be genuinely interested in the proceedings.
As far as food goes, listen very closely: taste test. Yes, that’s right. Picking the perfect wedding meal often means many ‘excruciating’ trips to the local catering companies to see who can offer the food most fit to tickle your taste buds. Sample to your heart’s content but don’t forget your main purpose of choosing a meal that will appeal to both you, and your reception guests.
Whether you’re having an open, closed, or non-alcoholic reception, your input can be invaluable in the beverage department. If you’re a wine lover, then be sure to hit up some fine wine distributors in your area and sample both reds and whites to settle on your table wine. Fans of the bubbly can also try out champagnes (or sparkling wine alternatives) for toasting purposes, and beer for the post dinner festivities. If you’re going the alcohol free route, look to fruit infused waters, creative fruit juice combinations, and non-alcoholic brew.
Musically, don’t be afraid to suggest a couple of your favourite songs so that you can cut a rug on the dance floor. Consider your new wife’s tastes, and those of the guests, but get your own tastes accounted for as well. Listen to the bands audition, test the DJs skill, and provide a nice library of tracks you’d like played.
Conversation starters? Think table centrepieces. Here’s a chance for you to be a little creative and help out with the decorating. Getting involved with the reception decorations has two benefits: your fiancee will be pleasantly surprised, and you get to tone down any attempts to drown the tables in flowers. The Knot piece suggests goldfish in a bowl, but romantic candles, disposable cameras (to capture all the night life), and less delicate floral arrangements may be a better alternative.
Don’t be afraid to speak up and make your opinions known. The majority of the fuss might be surrounding the bride, but it’s your wedding too, and you deserve a say in how it plays out.